ACCEPTANCE AND NON-ACCEPTANCE
While amidst the corona, we are in the time where we have to accept what’s happening around and try to be safe where we are. Those who are not accepting this pandemic seriously, are falling in it. In Life we need to accept a few things because acceptance and non-acceptance do play an important role, in the way, you live your life.
Acceptance will keep you emotionally tranquil and non-acceptance will create emotional agitation, fear, etc. When something is happening not the way we want and we accept it, it becomes tolerance and when we don’t accept it, it becomes anger or fear.
Let me explain this with a few examples:
1.Making fear into adventure via acceptance:
Fear is a situation when we are about to encounter uncertainty when we don’t know what’s going to happen, this facing uncertainty causes fear in us. When people go to the Himalayas for trekking or skydiving to face their fear, it’s called adventure and not fear. I.e when we are facing uncertainty and we don’t accept it, it becomes fear and when we accept it, it becomes an adventure. So, the idea here is to accept uncertainty with courage and make fear into an adventure.
2.Making jealousy into inspiration by acceptance:
When do you feel jealous?
Somebody has something that you don’t have or somebody has achieved that you couldn’t achieve and this when we are not able to accept it, it becomes jealousy and when we accept it, it becomes inspiration. Somebody has something that I don’t have that inspires me to realize that I will also achieve this.
Now take the example of the Corona pandemic, those who accept it take utmost precautions and try to be safe, and those who don’t accept it suffer. Accepting that in this pandemic you need to stay at home to be safe is the need of time.
Of course, life will bring many challenges, and it is not easy to embrace them when we are suffering and wishing that those things never happen. It means something when handled with non-acceptance becomes a negative emotion and when something handled with acceptance becomes optimism.
I would like to say that life is the way we accept it.
Expecting and accepting are two sides of life where expecting may end into tears while accepting brings cheers. Accepting these changes keeps you happy, calm but if you don’t accept rather try to oppose them they make your life difficult. It doesn’t necessarily mean that we should stop trying and start accepting things as they are nor does it mean we shouldn’t expect anything. But, it means, acceptance of some things that are beyond our control. A simple thing like this can make our life easy.
If we start cultivating acceptance in our life right now we will likely cope up with future crises in a different way. Yes, acceptance is a choice. Tough one most definitely, but it’s a choice that we can make at any given situation of our lives.
Let me again clarify that acceptance is not at all related to weakness and is definitely not a synonym for mediocrity. Acceptance, in my opinion, is the key to convert momentary happiness to enduring happiness. It helps you move from feeling happy to actually being happy. We all need to learn how to identify when it’s time to persist and when it’s time to accept.
Acceptance is not an act of passivity, but rather an act of wisdom, of agreeing to start our efforts from where we actually are and considering what actually is.
Acceptance, with the right understanding, can be experienced as an act of courage. It is for those who have the strength to face the truth and stop denying it. It can be, in fact, the first step in a process of genuine success and movement. We need to develop the habit of looking at whatever happens through a positive mindset instead of a defeatist one.
